Love Unmasked

The Illusion of Need and the Path to true Liberation

“In order to say ‘I Love you’, You must first have an ‘I’, Few do.” - The Doc

Trigger Warning:

This article delves into themes of self-overcoming, societal conditioning, and personal mastery. It discusses confronting human flaws, enduring suffering, facing psychological challenges, and rejecting societal norms. Some readers may find these topics intense, particularly if they are sensitive to discussions around personal growth, emotional hardship, or philosophical concepts that challenge deeply held beliefs. The content encourages reflection on internal struggles and the discomfort inherent in personal development. Please proceed with caution and read on at your own discretion.

What most people call “love” is nothing more than a profound illusion, a mask for primitive selfishness and the unfulfilled dreams of childhood. Rather than liberating, this kind of love becomes an oppressive force—a desperate cry from those seeking escape from themselves and the weight of true freedom. Instead of being a joyful, life-affirming power, it transforms into a crutch, a burden that binds the weak to their need for external validation. It is not a pathway to self-fulfillment, but a refuge for those fleeing from the challenge of independence and the courage to stand alone.

This love, often idealised and praised, is rooted in fear—fear of solitude, fear of self-sufficiency, and fear of facing the unknown without the comforting tether of another. It offers no growth, no transcendence, only stagnation. The individual clings to it, not for the beauty of connection, but out of a desperate need to avoid the heavy responsibility that true freedom and self-reliance demand.

Such “loving” people are suffocating. Their needs are insatiable, overwhelming the very individuals they claim to cherish. What begins as love swiftly warps into pity, disgust, and eventually, anger—suffocating the life they were supposed to nurture. This form of love devours like a predator, consuming everything in its path, leaving nothing untouched or intact.

Psychologists call this behavior pathological, a toxic attachment that spirals into obsession if left unchecked. It’s a chaotic drama played out in countless relationships, with tragic consequences. How many horrors have been committed in the name of love? Couples tear each other and their children apart under the guise of affection. We see these spectacles flood our media, but to witness it in real life is heartbreaking. This so-called love is neither unique nor sacred; it is a blend of biochemical impulses, desperation, and societal expectations, falsely cloaked in nobility and grandeur.

Love begins in infancy as pure, unfiltered need. A child depends entirely on the caretaker, and this dependency forms the blueprint for what we later call love. In this primal exchange, the caretaker’s duty is to meet the child’s needs, while the child owes nothing in return—absolutely nothing. Yet, society distorts this dynamic, demanding that the child repay the parents for their sacrifices and suffering. This logic of obligation, rooted in suffering and guilt, warps the very idea of love, turning it into a transactional, victim-based relationship where disappointment and resentment are inevitable.

In common practice, “love” is often wielded as an excuse for crossing boundaries, for inflicting pain under the guise of affection. When held by emotionally healthy individuals, love can indeed be a beautiful force. But in the hands of those burdened by unresolved trauma and fragile egos, it becomes dangerous. Until we free ourselves from the infantile need for love and place ourselves at the center of our own existence, love remains a problem, not a solution—a false cure for those crippled by their past, offering only dependency, not genuine connection.

This distortion extends into sexual union as well. In today’s world, sexual relationships often mirror childhood fantasies, fueled by obsession and perversion. While fleeting moments of passion may offer a temporary escape, many people mistakenly turn these brief experiences into a way of life, cloaking their dysfunction with terms like “sexual freedom” or “preference.” In truth, such behavior represents degradation, not liberation. Even worse, these immature actions are celebrated and socially validated, further entrenching a false sense of empowerment.

Even “normal” sex, shaped by repression and societal expectations, is just another form of perversion. Neither sexual obsession nor conventional sex approaches true union. Real sexual union, as seen in practices like tantra, transcends the ego and strips away the masks imposed by society. It reveals the raw, primal power of the individual, unlocking personal mastery in the present moment. Tantra is the dance of the Beast and the Goddess—a powerful expression of true freedom, far removed from the chains of childish dependency.

The path to this higher form of union, this journey across the abyss, defies simple explanation. The techniques that open one to the present moment are intricate, and the self-surrender they require is difficult to articulate. Yet, I will attempt it, for this practice is vital to our happiness, our freedom, and even our survival. This is tantra—not the diluted version sold to the masses, but the pure essence of power, connection, and liberation.

This is where my current magical practice has led me, and now, sharing this work is the next crucial step, though it will be no easy task.

Living authentically comes with inherent risks. The collective tends to react harshly toward those who refuse to conform, and walking a different path often leads to judgment, criticism, or even ostracism. Yet, the rewards of embracing your individuality—true freedom, creativity, and self-fulfillment—far outweigh the price of societal rejection.

Tantra empowers you by dismantling the chains that bind your mind to the falsehoods and illusions society has created to keep you confined within the herd. It frees you from these mental shackles, allowing you to transcend the pressures of conformity and reclaim your individual power. Through this liberation, you rise above the collective, no longer tethered to the expectations and limitations imposed by others.

To live as an individual means accepting full responsibility for your life. You can no longer blame society, your upbringing, or external forces for your situation. While this truth can be difficult to face, it is also deeply liberating. When you take ownership of your life, you recognise that you hold the power to change it. You are no longer a passive victim of circumstance but the active creator of your own reality. This shift from victimhood to agency is the essence of true freedom and personal power—an awakening to the realisation that you control your path and destiny.

This path is not one of sweetness and light—it demands hard work, persistence, and an unwavering commitment to growth. Yet, it is the only way to achieve true freedom. The journey requires us to confront our deepest fears, shed the illusions we’ve carried, and rise above the constraints of society and our past. It is through this struggle that we find genuine liberation, not in comfort, but in the power that comes from mastering ourselves and our reality.

I am now dedicating my time to sharing this journey, but remember, you must do the work alone. The path to true freedom is yours to walk—no one else can undertake that effort for you. All I can do is point the way and help you avoid unnecessary detours.

The answer to all of the questions is always “further.” No matter the challenge, the obstacle, or the uncertainty.